FCKN AWSM

Back on the job doing what I want to do.
Heaps of fun.
Lots to learn.
So much to do in preparation of training application.

Backpedal

Okay, so I got back to the dating thing and I think I just suck at it or I'm just not very versed. I blinded dated this guy and then did what I always seem to do; went back for another date - regardless of my initial impressions - I wasn't all that keen in the physical sense but he was otherwise a nice guy... (I have a confession, when I say there are no decent guys out there, there are actually, I'm just not attracted to them... Haha). So, anyway, we stayed in touch and then i did a stupid thing whilst I was drunk and asked him to hang out one evening; he ended up staying over & getting amorous. So I vowed after that not to do any more, because I'd be leading him on somewhat, anyway he ended up staying over again; this time nothing happened, we just slept. But I felt bad, cos I didn't mind the company but I think he thought there might be something more...
I'm still struggling with the idea of dating & feedback... how do you say you're not interested in intimate relations but okay with friends - without being a prick about it. Most of my mates suggested that I stop calling/texting but I'm not really the bastard type.

Play by Play

So, this is like my M.O. the process of which I filter subjects, often it's the same structure and sometimes I use the lite version...

Ok, lets begin.

So when searching online, always filter out those without pictures... why? because men a very visual creatures; self explanatory... oh and blurry pics = ugly, tiny pics = ugly. Keep in mind that people instinctively choose to put their best foot (Face) forward... scary huh!?

Then, keep a conservative age window; people inherently lie about themselves, their age etc... this just helps keep it real... besides there aren't that many attractive guys above your age bracket if you can't find that many in it!

Next! Okay, profile stats... my interpretation is this - it's real easy to fill this out, you just tick/click or punch in some numbers. Not very hard. If a boy cannot fill these out they usually fall in to two categories... lazy or have something to hide. Take the follow examples:
No Age = I'm old
No weight = I'm fat
No height = I'm insecure about my height
No cock size = well okay, I'm a bit forgiving about this one because not everyone is brought up to be completely comfortable about talking about how long it is etc... however, I will say that over estimation is rife... esp when said boys come with pictures which make you wonder where they started measuring from....
No ethnicity = I'm from a racial minority

Right, now onto the lack of information in profiles... well we all know that girls are more articulate than guys, they speak more words per day etc etc... The extent of a guys intellect is often founded in the first few sentences... such as looking for fun times, but more and more people write the same cliched mumbo jumbo which doesn't set anyone apart... things like I like sport and going to the gym or having a beer with mates, clubbing or watching DVDs on the couch... everyone has become a generic.

SO, assuming I haven't ripped you to shreds by that stage, it comes down to the overall vibe... do you sound like someone I would want to date once or more than once or someone who's probably just around to get off. Lets progress and say yer, I think I'd like to go out on a date with you...

I often send a very general opening message like, hello, I like your profile (and how you like this/that/or the other) and was wondering if you'd like to have coffee/drink/beer/dinner some time? sometimes I like to tag on the what do you do with yourself/on an average day question in there - it frames a little bit about what a person is like/their lifestyle and routine, it also gives them a chance to say someone about themselves (which btw is the whole point)...

I will pause here to say that sometimes the reply i get isn't very meaningful and i feel like i'm talking to a five year old...

regardless of how inarticulate they are, the crucial point is how well they interact, if the response fails to deliver a question in return then it's all over (and if there's no response, it's their loss) and I come to two conclusions... 1. the boy is not interested or 2. the boy isn't a good communicator. Both of which are incompatible outcomes. It's not difficult to engage and show some interest in what a person does for a living/for relaxing/for fun...

Right, now fast forward a bit into conversation land, I absolutely hate talking about myself and what I do, but I think it's an essential part of who I am and thus if someone I go on a date with doesn't enquire/ask, then they're missing a huge chunk of me... it's almost like on principle the idea is to get to know each other... I do that in most interactions I have with people (when I have the energy) even if I don't want to date them... I'll ask what they do, what they really do! It's all interaction...

Now can you see why I'm sick of boys...

Resolutions

New years was a blast. I got exceedingly drunk and got really sick and have been in bed the last couple of days. My mates have all been trying to come up with resolutions for the new year and I've kinda just lost the plot.
I'm sick of guys, so much so that I can't bring myself to go out dating. Actually, that's not true, if there were any eligible then I'd think about it. It really isn't supposed to be this complicated.

Another thing...

Things seem to ebb and flow in muh life. I get a sudden wave of messages from random people and then there's weeks with nothing. Often I don't really read them because they're too short/inconsequential but I got this msg from a guy that said,

"So saw your profile pic, went to check it out, and after reading your profile I'm intimidated!!"

and it kind of occurred to me that may be I am being a little bit intimidating, probably not intentionally, but I just clearly bullet-ed about me and about what I was looking for. I wasn't even being specific like requesting for particular hair colour or eye colour or profession or other physical characteristics. I like keeping things straight forward (and it's like a check box).

Speaking of straight, I have this other issue, all these guys have this thing about writing about how they are 'str8 acting' and I laff most of the time because they have these ridiculous photos of themselves which make them look obviously homo. What's the point of writing such crap; some even harp on about how it's not an act. I would much prefer it if they could write masculine or not so masculine; simple.

I have another annoyance, people who clearly don't self check before presenting in public, whether that's online or out in the street... like today a bunch of fat chicks at the swimming pool wearing inappropriate bathers, I couldn't tell if it was breast or tummy or breast squished against tummy flab; ugh. And then there's guys who use grindr and put up really unappealing photos of them drunk or doing stoopid sh!t and wonder why no-one will message them. Whilst I'm on that topic, "Hi" is not a significant gesture of starting a conversation with me, "Hi" can be for passing on the street but I need something more substantial; this excludes comments such as "hot body", "hott" or "sexy". Lastly, a date is a prerequisite to anything more. Oh and given the current societal infatuation with Twilight: New Moon, I offer this phrase from muh collection:

"Abs do not maketh the man"

regardless of how abtastic the movie is.